Pocketful of Mojo
Pocketful of Mojo
You’re Not Broken. You’re Unheard.
Ever feel like your life checks every box yet somehow feels dimmed at the edges? Steph, the Mojo Maven, takes us straight to the heart of that gap between performing and belonging—to ourselves. We unpack how early praise for being “easygoing” or warnings about being “too sensitive” taught us to override instincts, choose logic over truth, and outsource our choices to the algorithm. The result isn’t a broken self; it’s a quiet habit of not listening, and that habit is reversible.
We dig into the sneaky signs of disconnection: getting a lot done but feeling meh, looking successful while doubting yourself, and mistaking anxiety for ambition. Steph reframes the core question from “What’s wrong with me?” to “What is this trying to tell me?” and shows how that pivot opens the door to self-trust. You’ll learn four practical practices to hear yourself again—ask better questions rooted in sensation, create space before input, spot micro-moments of self-abandonment, and make small desire-led choices that build trust through repetition. These aren’t hacks; they’re ways to tune in so your values, body, and choices start to align.
We also name the cost of not listening: constant second-guessing, low-level irritation, and a brand of exhaustion coffee can’t touch. Then we map the return on listening—moving slower with more certainty, saying less but meaning more, needing less permission because you know what’s true. This isn’t about getting louder; it’s about getting steadier. If your discomfort has been nagging at you, treat it as an invitation, not a flaw. Pause before you seek advice, ask yourself first, and watch self-trust rebuild one honest choice at a time.
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Hey friend, welcome back to Pocket Full of Mojo. I'm Steph the Mojo Maven. And before we do anything else today, I want you to notice your body for a second. Your shoulders, your jaw, your breath. Because if you're anything like the people pleasers I work with, you've been walking around with this quiet belief that something about you needs fixing. That if you could just figure yourself out, improve yourself, heal a little faster, think a little clearer, drink more water, hit 10K steps, get that promotion, things would finally click. But what if that's not the truth? What if the reason that things feel heavy and confusing or off? It's not because you're broken. What if it's because you stopped listening to yourself a long time ago? Today's episode is about coming back. Not to a better version of you, but to the real one. So today we're gonna talk about what happens when you finally start hearing yourself again. So buckle up, buttercup, because we're coming home. But first, let's get tuned in, tapped in, and turned on. You know, most of us didn't wake up one day and decide to disconnect from ourselves. It happened slowly and likely without your permission or awareness. And I can tell you the moment it happened. It happened the first time you were told you were too sensitive. The first time you were praised or rewarded for being easygoing. The first time you learned that making waves cost you love, safety, or belonging. So you adjusted. You learned to override your instincts and stop trusting your gut. You learned to quiet your needs and eventually disconnect entirely from what they even are. You learned to trust what made sense instead of what felt true, logic over truth. And then with all this skewed data, somewhere along the way, you started confusing discomfort with dysfunction. So if something ever felt off, the question turns into, what's wrong with me? So you started fixing and you stopped listening. But when you stop asking what's wrong with me, and start asking, what is this trying to tell me? you're crossing the threshold of coming home to yourself. And that's where your power and all the answers really live. And they've always been there. So let's settle in and unpack what this all means. Let's start by talking about how disconnection actually feels. Because it's kind of sneaky. Because disconnection isn't really that dramatic and it doesn't always show up as a total breakdown. Because sometimes it feels like getting a lot done, but then you feel kinda meh about it, you know? Or knowing that you should be grateful, but you still feel kinda antsy. And it feels like being good at things, but you're still low-key doubting yourself. Or looking successful on paper, but feeling weirdly flat inside. Like you're doing life right, quote unquote. But something inside you still feels muted. Like you're a neon sign, but you keep showing up as a watercolor. That's usually when people start looking outside of themselves. They look outward and ask, Well, what would you do? What does the algorithm tell me to do? What's the smart move here? And then slowly, quietly, your inner voice gets drowned out by everyone else's opinions. Not because your voice disappeared, but because it wasn't even being invited into the conversation. And there's a moment that I see over and over again working with people pleasers. Someone comes to me convinced that they are the issue. And I'll hear things like, I just need clarity, or I really need to work on my confidence, or I need to stop feeling this way. But when we slow down, nothing about them is broken. They're just exhausted from not listening. They've been pushing past their own limits. They've been saying yes when their body said no to meet someone else's expectations. They've been chasing alignment without checking in to know when to stop. And the aha moment always lands the same way. I hear, oh, I wasn't broken. I just wasn't listening. And that's the moment where everything softens. Because listening is a skill, not a personality trait. And here's what no one tells you listening to yourself isn't something that you either can or can't do. It's something you practice. And at first, he's gonna feel a little bit unfamiliar, maybe even a little bit uncomfortable. Because when you listen, you might hear things like, I'm tired. I don't want to do this anymore. This is not an alignment. And those truths ask something of you. So instead of listening, we just fix because fixing feels productive and listening feels risky. Because if we listen, we may hear something we don't want to hear. We might uncover a truth that stings or requires us to forgive ourselves. Yet another muscle that can be rebuilt. But we may realize that we've been acting out of alignment with our own values and our own dreams and goals, and we're gonna have to admit that hard truth to ourselves. But you know what? You can survive that. You can feel the hurt of self-betrayal and then the warm hug of self-forgiveness. Because listening is where you rebuild that self-trust. Because every time you pause instead of push, every time you honor a feeling instead of overriding it, and every time you choose honesty over habit, that's how you come back to yourself. So let's look at some practical ways to start hearing yourself again. I want to make this real. So here are four practical ways that you can start hearing yourself again. Number one, start asking better questions. Like instead of what should I do? Which is giving it's giving nebulous, it's giving prime environment for overthinking. And it really highlights that disconnection. I want you to try asking yourself, what feels heavy right now? What feels lighter? And your body is gonna answer faster than your brain, faster than Google, even. Practical tip number two, create space before input. Aka, what if you had the answer? Like before you ask anyone else, just pause. Even five quiet minutes can change the answer. Practical tip number three, notice where are you abandoning yourself? That knot in your stomach, babe, that's not excitement. Let's be real. Every time you say yes, and there's a little pull or a little tug inside, that's information. Pay attention, pull the thread, take a breath, and maybe reconsider your answer. And practical tip number four is practice trust in the small moments. Start making choices based on desire and not what makes sense, not on logic. Because your trust is gonna grow through repetition, and you're allowed to want things without a thesis about it. So my recommendation is give it a try, and the results might surprise you. Now it's important to know the cost of not listening. Because here's the part we don't talk about enough. Because after going through all of these new options that you now have, now that you're not trying to fix yourself, you may be thinking, uh, yeah, maybe I'll just keep doing what I'm doing because all that seems really awkward and hard. Mm-hmm. Yeah, I hear you, I get it. But when you don't listen to yourself, here's what's gonna cost you. You're gonna pay by always wondering if you're messing up. You're gonna pay with that low-level irritation that you can't quite put into words, but it seems to always be there. You're gonna trade honesty for exhaustion. And there's no amount of coffee or naps or vacation that are even gonna put a dent in that exhaustion because it's a different kind of energy suck. And then there's always gonna be that little pang of hurt and resentment and guilt for the life that you thought that you'd have. Now, now when you don't listen to yourself, your life won't explode, but it will slowly drain you. And that realization, it might feel like shame, but it's actually awareness. And awareness changes everything. Now for some good news. Here's what's coming back when you start listening. Because when you start hearing yourself again, something shifts. You move slower, but with more determination and more certainty. You say less, but you mean it more. You stop needing permission and approval because you know what's true. Not because you stopped caring, but because you started trusting. And this doesn't mean that you become louder, it means you become steadier. And that steadiness, that's your power. All right, my friend, let's land this. Here's the truth I want you walking away with. You were never broken, you didn't miss anything, you don't need fixing, and it's never too late. You just need to listen. Because your discomfort isn't a flaw, it's an invitation. So this week, before you ask for advice, before you look outside for answers, pause. Ask yourself first. And when you do, you'll be well on your way to rebuilding self-trust, strengthening your relationship with yourself and other people, and one reflection at a time, you'll be coming home to the fabulous person that you've always been. So if this episode resonated, share it with someone who's been trying to improve themselves into alignment. Leave a review so more people can find Pocketful of Mojo. And if you're ready to connect more deeply, check out the show notes for ways that we can work together. Once again, this has been Steph, your mojo maven, and this is your reminder that coming back to yourself is always an option. That's it for me. Thank you for being here. I'm gonna catch you next time. Ciao for now. Love you, bye.
