Pocketful of Mojo
Pocketful of Mojo
Your Gut Called: It's Tired of Being Ignored!
Have you ever known something with absolute certainty but couldn't explain why? That quiet voice, that feeling in your stomach, that inexplicable knowing—it's your intuition trying to guide you home.
In this milestone 50th episode of Pocketful of Mojo, we're diving deep into why our gut instincts matter, why we so often ignore them, and how reconnecting with this inner wisdom transforms our relationship with ourselves. For recovering people pleasers, overthinkers, and perfectionists, that gut feeling can feel fuzzy or buried under layers of doubt, fear, or programming about what others think. But what if your intuition is actually the voice of your higher self—the part of you that knows everything you've been through and still sees you as whole, worthy, and wildly capable?
I share a deeply personal story about my first podcast venture and how my intuition tried to prepare me for an unexpected tragedy, highlighting how our gut often knows what's coming before our logical mind can make sense of it. We explore what it actually looks and feels like to trust your gut—not as dramatic lightning bolt moments, but as simple acts of pausing, feeling the "ick," choosing rest, or making aligned decisions. The transformation that follows is profound: relief, clarity, confidence, and ultimately freedom from the constant need for external validation.
Building a relationship with yourself follows the same principles as any meaningful relationship: listening, showing up, and keeping your word. When you honor this connection, you develop stronger boundaries, healthier relationships, increased confidence, and the ability to take decisive action that feels like a superpower. Life becomes easier because you're no longer at war with yourself.
Ready to strengthen your intuition? Take this week's mantra with you: "I trust the part of me that always knows." Your higher self isn't something to find—it's already there, waiting for you to listen. Share this episode with someone who needs this reminder, and remember: you don't need a perfect plan—you need a little more trust in yourself.
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hello, hello and welcome back to pocket full of mojo, the podcast that's part pep talk, part tough love and all about getting your sparkle back without losing your sanity. We're calling out the BS, ditching the burnout and making personal growth feel more like a dance party than a guilt trip. So grab your coffee or your crown and let's get that mojo working. Today we're talking about gut instincts, why they matter, why we ignore them and how tuning into your gut is actually a doorway to building a better, more loving relationship with your fine self. I'm also bringing back the mantra of the week. So, without further ado, let's dial into that mojo and get tuned in, tapped in and turned on. Hey, hey, hey, mojo-ino, welcome back to Pocketful of Mojo, your go-to space for getting real, getting clear and getting in touch with a version of you that actually feels like you. If you're new here, I'm Steph. I'm your Mojo Maven. I'm here to help you navigate the messy bits between where you are and where you're going, so that you can live a life you love and love the life you live. Quick reminder I'm not a therapist, I'm not a psychologist. I'm a flawed human and a recovering people pleaser. So if you fall into either of those categories. You're right at home and I'm so glad each and every one of you are here today. Because number one, it's my 50th episode and I'm so happy and proud and pumped that over a year later the mojo is still a-flowing. And two, we're diving into something I'm super passionate about that doesn't just guide your decisions, it transforms your whole relationship with yourself. I think I'm really onto something in a good way.
Speaker 1:So today we're talking about trusting your gut, that little voice, that quiet, little nudge, that full body, yes or no that we feel before our monkey brains can explain it. But here's the thing most of us don't trust it. We leave it on red, we hit mute. We've been trained to override it or to question it or silence it, and in the process we lose connection with ourselves. So in this episode it's going to be about more than just intuition. It's about rebuilding the self-trust, the how to listen to your own wisdom, how to choose yourself over and over, until that just becomes your normal. So let's get into it. So we're talking about trusting your gut. So now I know that phrase gets tossed around a lot just trust your gut, like it's always easy, like it's super obvious, like someone's banging us over the head with the answer. But for many of us, especially recovering people pleasers or overthinkers or perfectionists that gut feeling can feel fuzzy or confusing or just simply buried under layers of doubt or fear or programming, not to mention, it can get trapped in the filter of what other people think, ew. So today I want to draw a link between trusting your gut and building a loving relationship with yourself, because they're deeply connected and you can't trust your gut if you don't know yourself and you can't know yourself if you never listen. So let's unpack it.
Speaker 1:When I think about the topic of trusting your gut, or intuition, I'm reminded of the time when I was back in France and fresh out of the pandemic and starting my first podcast. It was called Coffee with a Canadian and it was short-lived, but it was super cute. Called Coffee with a Canadian and it was short-lived, but it was super cute, and I spent weeks preparing for the launch. It had kind of been born out of the pandemic and when you have nothing else to do, you put pen to paper and you start making a plan and the idea had forever been on my vision board and I thought, well, I got the time to do this. I don't really have any hobbies to speak of. Let's do this. And so I crowdfunded for the equipment and I taught myself how to use it from scratch and I researched the niche and I programmed the format and every day got closer to going live. Man, it was exciting. I was doing the thing, I was podcasting. It was like nobody came to stop me and this was going to be my thing. I was ready to start small and grow big. I was taking marketing classes and learning about promotion and editing and learning all about sound editing and all about the podcast world, and I had a year's worth of guests lined up. I had a perfect co-host shout out to my girl, edie a fantastic premise and I was so passionate about making this work and making this my next big thing.
Speaker 1:And yet, no matter how hard I worked and how committed I was, I kept coming across these hiccups that didn't make sense. Like we would be recording and like 45 minutes into the session I would see that it stopped recording after 16 minutes. Like that happened at least twice. And I was editing one night and my husband at the time just happened to spill a glass of wine on my laptop Awesome. So cue the two week delay as I waited for my new laptop to arrive, and I would go to upload an episode and there would be a glitch on the platform and I would lose all my progress, or I'd be editing and get stuck and do all the right troubleshooting. I would watch all the videos and do all the right things in the right order and it still wouldn't do what it was supposed to do. Now in my mind I was writing this all off. Well, it's normal that a beginner, you know this stuff would happen. I just need to work harder. But there was a voice underneath that that was telling me to listen harder. I couldn't quite put my finger on it, but I definitely ignore that voice.
Speaker 1:Then I was out and about with a friend of mine and he asked me how the podcast was coming along and I said well, it's going well. Then I was out and about with a friend of mine and he asked me how the podcast was coming along and I said well, it's going well. And I noticed that I said that with some hesitation, which isn't at all like me or how I thought of myself thinking about it. I thought that I was really excited about it. It was pumped and it was going well. And then I continued, I pulled on that thread and I followed Mike at this time and I shared with him.
Speaker 1:I said I feel like something is holding me back, all of these hiccups, all of these random things that should work, but don't, and I don't know what it is. I feel like somebody's, like grabbing the back of my shirt and pulling me back and saying uh-uh, not so fast. And I couldn't quite wrap my head around it and I didn't have the answer, but I threw it out there anyway and it was him that called it out. He said well, your gut's trying to tell you something. You might want to meditate on it and see what comes up. And then the next week rolled around and I was just getting ready, after so much troubleshooting and extra work and struggle, to upload the third episode. I woke up to the phone call that changed my life. My mom had taken a nap and never woke up. My mom had died and, just like that, the center of my universe, my North Star, my mom, had passed away. So what does this have to do with anything? Well, I tell you, my view and I'm resolved in this is that the universe, or God or Source or my higher power was trying to tell me not to get too ahead of myself that something else was on the way, because I think of my gut or my intuition like this.
Speaker 1:I believe that we all have a higher self. It's not something you earn or something that you find after enough yoga classes or journaling prompts. It's been with you since the day you were born Quiet, steady, wise and deeply loving. This part of you knows everything you've been through, every mistake, every messy chapter, every win, every heartbreak, and still sees you as whole, worthy and wildly capable. This higher self is the real you, the deep down you, the version of you, untouched by fear, self-doubt or the need to prove anything to anyone. It's the you. Beneath all the noise, beneath what you were taught to believe, beneath the pressure to have it all together, beneath the masks you wear to fit in, it knows what lights you up. It sees the truth of who you are and who you're meant to be, and it's always trying to guide you there, gently, patiently, without judgment, no need to apologize.
Speaker 1:So when you build a relationship with your higher self, life gets clearer. You start making choices that feel right in your skin, in your bones, even if they don't make sense on paper. You feel less lost, less frantic, like you're grasping at things just to feel okay. And the more you do this, the more you trust yourself. You recover faster, you say no more easily and you start to glow, not because you've become someone new, but because you finally started listening to the you that's been there all along. It's less of a transformation and more of a reveal, and don't get it twisted Having a powerful relationship with yourself it doesn't mean you're perfect.
Speaker 1:It means that you're anchored. Think of it that way Like you don't abandon yourself when things get hard. Because you have that bond, you don't shame yourself for slipping. You become your own safe space, like your own hype squad, your own healer, your own wise best friend. And that doesn't replace the people in your life that hold those roles, but you can include yourself in the mix and from that place, everything else in your life gets better your energy, your relationships, your purpose, your joy. And it's not about being spiritual or getting it right. It's about getting quiet enough to hear the part of you that already knows the way and choosing to trust it more often. Go ahead, see what happens. What if it was something really great.
Speaker 1:Now, I get this might be a lot for some people to digest and it's a bit woo-woo. If this isn't your typical system of thinking, and I get that. And, as always, this podcast is here for you to take what serves you and leave the rest. If this isn't your jam, that's totally fine part. In particular, I want you to just imagine what it would be like to have a full-time cheerleader, an unconditional supporter, a faith provider or a constant source of empowerment, mojo, inner peace, flow and clarity right there in your pocket. You don't have to pick up the phone, you don't have to send an email, it's just with you. You'd want to be friends, right? Well, my darling, that person is you and basically what Mojo is, and it's all there to help you build a better relationship with your higher self, which is really yourself. See how that kind of comes together, because that higher self will always guide you to what you need, even if it's not what you want, sorry, not sorry. Higher power knows best.
Speaker 1:So let's have a look at what it looks like to trust your gut. Trusting your gut doesn't always look like lightning bolts or aha moments or huge revelations. Most often, a true eureka moment looks like simply pausing before you say yes to something that doesn't feel right. Or maybe it's feeling the ick and then taking action by leaving that conversation or relationship or situation because it's draining you. It sure as hell isn't lifting you up. Or maybe you're at the point where you're tired of feeling tired, so you choose rest over hustle, even when the world says go harder. Or maybe it's taking on the task of getting good at making decisions that feel aligned, even if they don't make sense on paper or if it's not the kind of decision that you've made in the past. Because, let's be real, how's that working out for you so far?
Speaker 1:We could all use a little tune-up, because your gut, your intuition, it's subtle, it's quiet. Sometimes it's just a whisper, or maybe tightness in your chest, or that nagging thought that keeps showing up even when you try to ignore it, Because listening to that whisper, that is a radical act of self respect. So let's go deeper, because when you start to listen up to your gut, when you trust it, you start to experience some powerful shifts. But a shift means that you're coming from somewhere and going to something else. So let's look at what's waiting for you on the other side. Let's have a look at what it feels like.
Speaker 1:So, when you trust your gut, some of the symptoms may include relief, that deep exhale just to let you breathe when you made a choice that honors you. There's like a little bit more space, and things that were blurry before bring you clarity. There's less back and forth, there's fewer pros and con lists, there's more confidence in your decisions, and I don't know how to explain it, but it's just like there's this new space. There's this new absence of anxiety and stress which makes you feel at peace of anxiety and stress, which makes you feel at peace Even when things are uncertain, because there's this inner steadiness that says whatever what I've got me, I've got this. I've made hard decisions before, I've got people in my corner that have got my back, but at the end of the day, I know I can figure this out and over time I got to tell you it really starts to feel like freedom, because you're no longer living for everyone else's approval. It's like I got so much free time and this is a really good indicator that you're in alignment with your truth. Doesn't that sound amazing? Because here's the thing Every time you listen to your gut, you're sending yourself a message.
Speaker 1:You're saying I trust you Think about how good it feels to hear that and remember that every time you override it, you're saying I don't think you know what's best. So if you've ever felt disconnected from yourself or unsure, insecure, resentful or constantly second-guessing or maybe even stuck, this is where you start. You build trust with yourself the same way you'd build it with a friend by listening, by showing up, by keeping your word. You say you're going to work out every morning at 6 am. Then show yourself the respect of getting up and working out at 6am. I hate that example. How about another example? You promised yourself one hour a week dedicated for just you time, whether that's binging Grey's Anatomy or getting a pedicure or whatever that is for you Fucking pedicure, stop it. With that reference.
Speaker 1:You build trust with yourself the same way you'd build it with a friend by listening, by showing up, by keeping your word. And the more you do that, the more you start to like yourself. And the more you start to like yourself, the more you start to believe in yourself, the more you start to love yourself. Because if you think about it like, how do you treat someone that you know really well, you probably show them some respect, some courtesy. You're thoughtful and you're intentional with how you act towards them, right, maybe you even show them love from time to time.
Speaker 1:Now, how do you show up for yourself? Do you show yourself the same love, consideration, respect? And if this answer is, you can start from where you are, because when you know yourself, really know yourself, you make different choices. You stop abandoning yourself to make other people comfortable, you stop nurturing a side of you that isn't in alignment with your goals and your dreams, you stop seeking permission, you start living your life on purpose and get out of rinse and repeat Now, I didn't say perfectly, I said on purpose.
Speaker 1:We are allowed to be flawed humans who make mistakes. That is all part of the circus of being alive. No one said we had to give all of our best stuff away, and there's no one at the end of this given out gold stars. Life is about service and experience, and you, my friend, are worthy of the best. So let's dabble in the idea that treating ourselves better in the name of building a better relationship, and see how our intuition and instincts can be added to this toolbox of self-love.
Speaker 1:And there's so many benefits to building a better relationship with yourself, stronger boundaries and you can do this now because you know what's okay with you and what's not. And when I say stronger boundaries, I'm totally leaving space for the reality that your boundaries might not even be in place yet, and that's okay. Totally been there like five minutes ago, and boundaries ebb and flow and change, and there's a podcast episode about boundaries out already. So I invite you to check that out if you're in more of the starting blocks place with when it comes to boundaries. But it'll also bring you healthier relationships because you're not trying to prove your worth or chase validation. You're going to learn real quick who's in it for you and who's in it for what you can do for them once you establish a more notable level of self-respect and the ability to say yes to what works and no to what doesn't, because you're not a yes machine.
Speaker 1:And when that shift happens, your people will rise to the top of the crop, not to mention the more confidence that you're going to be strutting around with because you're actually trusting your own judgment and you're putting yourself in the right rooms where you can be the most you and it's really the coolest one, because being able to take decisive action starts to feel like a superpower, and when this part of the transformation actually starts to happen, it may actually take you aback. So enjoy that moment, celebrate how far you've come from the person who used to need a risk analysis report before every decision. And this new feeling. That's freedom, that's confidence and it's trust that you've got your own back and, quite frankly, life becomes more easy because you're not at war with yourself anymore, because there's enough turmoil going on in the world that you don't need to be starting World War III in your own damn head every time a decision needs to be made. No more push-pull, no more hemming and hawing or just going with the flow. You're doing things with ease now, with strength and with clarity, and you become a safe place to land for yourself, and that changes everything.
Speaker 1:So if you're feeling disconnected or unsure right now and you don't know what your gut is saying or if you can trust it, I want to remind you of this You're not broken, you're just out of practice. The relationship that you have with yourself. It can be rebuilt. I've done it a few times. It starts with one choice one pause, one moment of tuning in. Let it be messy, let it be slow, but let it be honest.
Speaker 1:So now we're going to revisit an old feature of the podcast, the weekly mantra. You can take this with you and put it in your pocket and reference it whenever you feel the pull of your intuition but you're not quite sure how to navigate it. So our mantra this week is I trust the part of me that always knows. Friend, you know, and trust can be hard, but trust is built not when things are easy, but when things are hard. So it's a trust fall with yourself when you're listening to your gut. But once you start collecting evidence that you know like you know like you know, then you'll be more inclined to visit your friendly intuition more often and say yes where before you would have said no to protect yourself or for safety, or say no where you would have before said yes.
Speaker 1:Either way, it works for all of it, especially for my fellow recovering people pleasers out there. I see you. I trust the part of me that always knows, anchoring yourself in the thought or the idea that there is a part of you that has your back, that knows where you're going, that has your best interest at heart. That's the person you want to be tapping into, not the part that wants to please or follow what someone else has done, or copy someone whose life is wildly different from yours. Those voices don't know you like you know you. You know. I trust the part of me that always knows.
Speaker 1:Okay, steph, but what if I trust my gut and it doesn't work out? Did it not work out, though? I'm going to challenge you on that with love, because maybe it didn't work out the way you thought it would, but maybe, just maybe, you learned what you needed to learn in order to take the next step. Maybe what you wanted is different from what you needed. If you're caught in the place of wondering why didn't it turn out the way I thought it would, I challenge you to just pause, take a step back and think about what did I learn here, like what's the lesson, what's the gem that's got to come out of not getting it right or getting what you wanted? What was the gift that you got that wasn't on the registry? I trust that a part of me always knows.
Speaker 1:So here's the truth. Your higher self isn't a mystery to solve or a version of you that shows up once you've done the work. It's already there. Okay, it's the part of you that whispers instead of shouts, that guides you instead of pushing you, that loves you without conditions. And when you begin tuning in and building a relationship with that version of you, life gets lighter.
Speaker 1:Not because everything's perfect, but because you stop abandoning yourself. You start living from a place of truth, alignment and deep inner trust, and the more you choose to listen, the stronger that connection becomes. It's like having 10 aces up your sleeve and you don't need to become someone new. You just need to remember who you've always been. And let me tell you that version of you Total badass, total powerhouse. And just like that, you've got a Paca Fola Mojo From the heart of my bottom. My friends, thanks and merci for tuning in to Paca Fola Mojo. And if this hits home for you, share it with a friend who needs the reminder. And remember you don't need a perfect plan. You need a little more trust in yourself. So until next time, stay classy, stay kind and put love in everything you do. See you next time. Ciao. For now, mwah.
